Why Strong Women Leave Men They Love – What Every Man Needs to Know Part. 1
Women tend to invest a lot in a relationship; they put their
hearts and soul into it. They trust blindly, care immensely and love
recklessly. Most women don’t put themselves first when they are truly in love.
My home girl fell in love with a guy who treated her wrong in so many ways. She
trusted him and gave him everything she had. She refused to look past the false
image of him she had created for herself. Her idea of a perfect relationship
was petty and shallow. She didn’t realize the wrong she was doing to herself;
until she was finally out of the relationship.
Men, if and when chosen, wants to be selected by a strongindependent woman; the kind of woman who knows her worth, that respects herself
and knows how to make others respect her. The moment a woman learns to love and
respect herself, she gains the ability to evaluate her relationship better and
make better choices. She prepares herself to leave the man she loves, not
because she is not loyal but because she now knows that, her love for this guy,
was for the wrong reasons. Every meaningless thing suddenly starts to make
sense. Below are some of the reasons that make women leave the men they love.
1. Lack of common
interests are not a good sign
Okay, before I say anything, I want you to know that people
change with time. The person you are with changes every-day!!! It might be you
or it might be your partner. It is very true that opposites attract, but you
both should have some common qualities and interests. If you transitioned, it’s
not necessary that your partner transitioned with you. It was these common
interests that initially helped you both bond, their absence will have a
drastic effect on your relationship.
Any girl would be left questioning her decisions. My home
girls ex used to adore so many things about her but by the end of the
relationship, her guy started to disapprove of almost everything she did.
2. Lack of communication
will kill you
Women need someone to talk to, it is nearly impossible for a
guy to be by her side all the time but if you are not present and gone most of
the time, you are giving her one less of a reason to hold on. If you are not
with her every time she needs you, it’s almost like asking her to leave. My home
girl’s ex-guy would get missing for days without any explanation.
Please note: “being there” means that you need to be
mentally and emotionally present. You need to “listen” to her, not just nod
your head at everything she says while playing the X-box. Pay attention, become
a valid part of the conversation and make the conversation lively. That’s the
only way you can strengthen communication between the two of you and make your
relationship stronger.
3. Physical Intimacy
is very important
Women need just as much physical intimacy as men. If you
stop making sexual advances or are not taking care of her needs, she is
probably going to think that there is someone else who is taking care of your
desires for you. She is probably going to feel unwanted and worthless which
will be very damaging for your relationship.
Being physically intimate says a lot of things to your woman.
Yes, not everyone who gets-it-in is in love, but love is the number one reason
people have sex. If you care about your partner and their needs in bed, women
will have an assurance that your relationship is something worth holding on to
and that there is something still there between you two.
Please Note: Don’t
confuse LOVE with LUST. I’m not talking about lust here. Lust can only survive
for a while, love stays forever. You can only feel lust for someone for so
long, and then it will go away and you won’t be attracted to them anymore. When
you love someone, you are more attracted to them, and it’s natural.
4. Selfishness takes
over
You are more invested into activities that please you, the
less time you give her, the more distant she starts to feel which hurts your
relationship. Women want to be and like to be a priority, not an option. They
don’t want to be treated as a part-time chick or a side chick. If you want to
do you and be left alone, she will eventually pick up on the vibes and energy
you given off and after that she will seriously consider leaving you alone for
good.
Remember, a relationship is an amalgam of things connected
to one another giving you both reasons to hold on to one another. If these
connections don’t exist anymore, your lady will no longer feel inclined to stay
by your side. The biggest thing a woman needs is assurance and security. If
your aren’t for filling your promises and not putting effort into your
relationship, it will pull her apart bit by bit, to a point that she wouldn’t
want to commit anymore and will probably look around for a new romance. A
woman, unlike girls, doesn’t believe in fairy tales. She is a practical person
and even though she would be very much in love with you, she would run out of reasons
to hold on and when she does she will walk away.
5. Insecurities
Insecurities slowly kill any and all relationships eventually.
When a woman is insecure, everything and everybody, especially other females
become a perceived threat. Insecure people ruin more relationships than textingand sexting…which is a totally different topic in my next blog.
When a woman feels like her man is insecure, it’s a huge
turn off. A man should have faith and trust in his woman, he shouldn’t be
snooping around and he shouldn’t be asking her a million questions every day.
If THIS sounds like you or the person you are with it could be you are insecure
about the person you claim you love. Love comes with trust and trust kills
insecurities. Learn to trust your partner!
6. Too many lies
Keep it 100. Matter-a-fact, keep it 1,000. If you follow me on
social media, you know firsthand I’m going to keep it all the way real with
you. It’s not acceptable to lie to the person you love. Relationships are built
on the trust and lying is just a way to throw your relationship out the window.
Keeping up with lies at some point becomes hard work. One way or the other, your
girl will eventually find out that you lied and that’ll be the end of your
relationship (or at least the trust they had for you will never be the same).
When you lie to someone once, not only is it a sign of
disrespect but it also says a lot about how you really feel about your woman
and your relationship. But more importantly, it means that you’ll at some point
lie to them again. If you don’t want to drive your woman away from you, don’t
hide things, look sneaky, act guilty and don’t lie. Speaking the truth may hurt
them but speak truthfully and be honest!
Talk to your boy
Ladies, can you relate? Have you had similar experiences in
your life? Have you experienced something different? Let me know about them in
the comments below. And as always, stay strong and don’t give up on love!
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